First take a deep breath, and make a plan to help your child learn control. Doing so means you must stay in control. When your child sees you out of control, with anger or tears, your position as the adult in charge may be compromised. So stand firm and under control. At times we might become overwhelmed with emotions, so that may be the time to walk away, and let your feelings out in your own space.

Remember you are the one in control, you are the parent, you are in charge. Your first inclination may be to walk away and give up. But remember, this action will only leave bad results for you and your child. So stay. Be open with your child. Remind him you are in charge. This is the only way your child will learn respect for you. Your child really doesn’t want to be in charge, what he does want is structure, consistency, and fare discipline. So set fare limits, and consequences for going out of your limits.

Be positive, and show your love and concern for the child. Praise him for any good behavior shown. This will instill in the child the confidence that they can behave well. In fact, try to find something to praise them for everyday.

Be reasonable. Being overly strict can cause a child to rebel. At the same time don’t become a push over. Aways stay in control.

Set a good example. Keep your emotions under control and show your love and kindness to all in the family. Your child may be suppressing feelings because he is frustrated, not knowing how to show and speak his feelings.

According to The Supernanny, aggression is a behavior, and anger is a feeling. So help your child learn to manage his emotions and control his anger. Talk with him. Ask questions, such as, how do you feel, angry? Sad ? How would you feel if I did that to you? Talk, listen, and draw him out.

Now is the time to reach out to your “out of control child”. Explain the limits. Be consistent. Set consequences. Keep your emotions under control. Give positive reinforcement. Never feel embarrassed to seek professional help, if need be. Most of all show your love, concern, and support for your child.

Both you and your child will be glad you did.

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